My first book, Memories of Sexual Betrayal: Truth, Fantasy, Repression, and Dissociation, is a compendium of papers by psychoanalysts. These papers respond to the charges that previously-forgotten memories of sexual abuse remembered during therapy are “implanted” there by the therapist, either through outright suggestion or in subtler ways.

My other two books, Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men and Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse (as well as most of the rest of my papers), are about sexually abused boys and the aftermath of their victimization as they mature into men. When I first began considering my work with men having sexual abuse histories, there was very little in the professional literature to guide me. Some books and articles about sexually abused girls and women had been published, and most of these acknowledged that boys and men were also sexually abused. However, they said little about how to understand men’s sexual abuse. The reader was often left either with the impression that boys and girls react very similarly to sexual betrayal, or that boys are very rarely sexually abused. Neither of these impressions was accurate.

Because of dearth of literature about therapeutic work with sexually abused men, I was encouraged to write professional papers about these men. In 1992, I gave my first paper on the subject at the Spring meeting of Division 39 (Psychoanalysis) of the American Psychological Association. I gave papers at these annual conferences for the next five years. These five papers reflected my earliest thinking about work with sexually abused men. As I wrote my second book, Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men, I revised these papers considerably and (hopefully) improved on them.

My third book, Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life After Boyhood Sexual Abuse, is a departure from the first two. It is written for the lay public, and is specifically directed to sexually abused men and their loved ones. In this book, I take many of the themes in Betrayed as Boys and talk to men about them so they can use the concepts to help themselves heal.

I list below all my articles, chapters, and books. A number of my papers and excerpts from books are reprinted to the left.

 

Books

Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life After Boyhood Sexual Abuse. Wiley, in press.

Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men. Guilford Press, 1999. Runner-up, 2001 Gradiva Award for Best Book on a Clinical Subject, National Association for the Advancement of Psychoanalysis (NAAP).

Memories of Sexual Betrayal: Truth, Fantasy, Repression, and Dissociation (Editor). Jason Aronson, 1997.

 

Published Articles and Chapters

The Jewish men dancing inside me (in press). Chapter in The Still Small Voice, M Holzman, Ed. URJ Press.

Failed "Fathers," boys betrayed (2007). Chapter in Predatory Priests, Silenced Victims, M.G. Frawley-O’Dea and V. Goldner, Eds., Analytic Press.

Predatory priests: Sexually abusing Fathers (2004). Studies in Gender and Sexuality, 5:31-56

Effects on boys of priest abuse (2002). Psychologist-Psychoanalyst, 22:15-17

Coming to terms with sexual abuse (2002). Psychologist-Psychoanalyst, 22:18

Relational aftereffects in manhood of boyhood sexual abuse (1999). Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy, 29:319-353.

Sexual victimization of boys by men: Meanings and consequences (1999). Journal of Gay and Lesbian Psychotherapy, 3:1-33.

Cinematic depictions of boyhood sexual victimization (1999). Gender and Psychoanalysis, 4:253-289.

On masculine strength, emotional detachment, and the praise of incest (1999). Gender and Psychoanalysis, 4: 307-316.

An analytic group for sexually abused men (1997), International Journal of Group Psychotherapy, 47:373-383.

Considerations in the psychoanalytic treatment of men who were sexually abused as children (1997). Psychoanalytic Psychology, 14:13-41.

Managing chronic loss and grief: Contrapuntal needs of an AIDS patient and his therapist (1997). Chapter in Hope and Mortality: Psychodynamic Approaches to AIDS and HIV, M. Blechner, Ed., Analytic Press

Memories of sexual betrayal: Psychoanalytic perspectives on the debate (1997). Round Robin, Winter, 1997: 4-5, 16.

Incestuous boundary violations in families of borderline patients (1996). Contemporary Psychoanalysis, 32:73-80.

The relationship between Interpersonal Psychoanalysis and Family Therapy (1995). Chapter in Handbook of Interpersonal Psychoanalysis, M. Lionells, J. Fiscalini, C. Mann, and D. Stern, Eds., Analytic Press

Gartner, R.B., Bass, A., and Wolbert, S. (1979), The use of the one-way mirror in restructuring family boundaries, Family Therapy, 6:27-37

Gartner, R.B., Fulmer, R.H., Weinshel, M., and Goldklank, S. (1978), The family life cycle: Developmental crises and their structural impact on families in a community mental health center, Family Process, 17:47-58